What 7 Things Can Hold You Back?

1. The Procrastinator

The Procrastinators often obsess over the end product or outcome of whatever they’re doing and insist on it being perfect. Because of this, they spend too much time planning and researching instead of simply diving in. They hold themselves back from getting started. For Procrastinators: It’s important to push past that fear of starting.

2. The Rule Follower

Literally, this person’s dedicated to following the distinct rules and guidelines set by those around them. They’re obsessed with always trying to make the right decision, despite its potential effect on their own success. The best way to overcome this is by leaning into self-compassion. Allow yourself the opportunity and space to make the “wrong” decision—and, if you do, assure yourself that it is OK. You’re human, and it’s important to define your own set of guiding principles instead of always leaning on others or outside factors, tell yourself that it is OK.

3. The People Pleaser

Those who have the People Pleaser archetype struggle with the fear of being judged and worry most about disappointing others. They have a hard time setting clear boundaries and saying “NO.” Having boundaries often sounds scary to someone who is used to putting others first. Although this often comes from a genuine and thoughtful place, it can lead you to be the last priority. Taking care of yourself is the only way to learn how to improve in this area.

4. The Outcast

Those with the Outcast archetype may appear to be fearless on the outside, but on the inside, their biggest fear is rejection. Therefore, they often try to reject others first to avoid being hurt. Take the time to ask yourself if you are focusing on the worst-case scenario and what some other alternatives may be. Often if you only think about how poor the outcome is, you overlook the benefits of a situation. Giving others a chance might unearth some unexpected results, too. Look for evidence that you can trust others and know that if things don’t go well, you experienced at ending a situation!

5. Self-Doubter

The fear of not being good enough dominates this archetype. Those who self doubt feel insecure about their capabilities. They can sometimes find it difficult to put themselves out there—or on the flip-side, judge others to mask their own fears. Those who self-doubt are often the hardest workers—they put forth a lot of effort to overcome their fear of not being good enough. A good way to overcome self-doubt is to step outside of your comfort zone every once in a while—and note the outcome. When you practice being proactive about your life, you’ll be surprised to see just how much you are capable of.

6. Excuse Maker

Those who identify with the Excuse Maker archetype have difficulty taking responsibility for their life choices and goals. Instead of stepping up to lead every once in a while, they take a backseat to avoid accountability. They allow others to decide in their own lives. Going with the flow can be tempting because then you don’t feel responsible for any negative outcomes. The reality of this is that even being passive is a choice. Often, it’s difficult to meet a goal if you are not actively moving in a direction. There is great pride in accomplishing something that you set out to do!

7. The Pessimist

Finally, the Pessimist archetype struggles with the fear of adversity and hardship. Because of past or current trauma or difficulties, those who are the Pessimist archetype often feel victimized—and sometimes rightly so. But Pessimists can look at hardships as stop signs or a reason to give up. It’s important to practice looking at hardships as stepping stones or lessons, instead of roadblocks. We all go through difficulties in life. It’s just a matter of how we look at them that really shapes the outcome.