As a Writer
I write so many articles, rants, blogs, posts and if I had to edit everything on actual paper it would be thousands of crumbled up on the floor. Facebook
just made it possible for me to title case, bold, italic and a few others so I can be a better writer, ranter, historian, teacher, learner…I think you get the idea. I think we have enough environmental issues already, what do you think?
We’re not here to speak on environments
other than the ones we create. Some limited, some back stabbing, some jealous, some sharing, some observant… Whether intro or extroverted, positive or negative, the participation, non-participating and observer LEARNS. Judgement, manipulation, lies comes into play and ruins everything. You see, we’re all broken according to famous Author Ernest Hemingway
and that’s how the light gets in.
When self-centered people lose, they go into disaster mode. Act like an adult. Congratulate a winner, even if they’re being big-headed. Look them in the eye. Say “Great game or I appreciate you being my partner or friend.” Learning to lose gracefully is an important step in being less self-centered. The world won’t come to an end only us and that’s a lesson you need to learn.
Thank someone for something even if it’s small and seems insignificant to you or other people. Give gratitude as much as possible without being fake or overly unbelievable. Being polite and going that extra mile makes a difference. Look for excuses to give thanks. Even if you think you deserve more, or that the efforts of others come up short, thank them anyway. When you ride the bus, say thank you to the bus driver. When the server at a restaurant fills your water glass, make eye contact and say thank you. When your mother drops you off at school, say thank you. A thank you is a form of grace and gratitude not a one upper or a manipulative move or tactic. Or an opening opportunity to use someone, showoff, criticize or judge we’re all doing the best we can. We’re all busy!
Make eye contact when someone is talking. However you’re feeling, an easy way to demonstrate respect is to make good eye contact. Even if you don’t like what someone is saying, even if you think you don’t need to listen to it, be respectful and make eye contact. Practice basic listening skills even if you’re not perfect at it. Nod your head to show that you’re listening. Summarize what someone has said, after they’ve said it, before you respond. Show that you’re listening and learning. Ultimately, the decision is yours, you have nothing to prove.
Listen when people are talking. If you’re looking around the room and eavesdropping on other conversations while your friend is talking, you’ll seem bored and self-centered. When you’re with someone, give them your attention. Listen to what other people say, and put the focus more on them in your conversations. Ask questions and demonstrate an interest in what someone is saying. Follow up on something that they’ve said, like “How did that make you feel?” or even “What happened next?”
Read a novel.
A recent study found that people who enjoy reading fiction can more easily empathize with others. Reading a good book
can help you to understand and recognize the emotions of others, so it’s an easy way to work on yourself if you’re feeling self-centered. Of course, reading one book won’t automatically make you a more selfless person. Learning to invest in the lives of others
can help you get started. This doesn’t include prying into personal privacy. You set the boundary! Only you know your true core value.