Give the other person time to be sad and to recover. Depending on how important the relationship is to them, recovery may be swift. Try not to bring the horrific thing up again and try to replace those bad feelings with good ones. We are what we think about so keep the conversation positive. Never take for granted that someone will be there always. Anything not treated properly or treated badly in any environment will soon disappear; ie: flowers, clothing, a set of dishes and even people.
If a person has insecurities about themselves outside the normal behavior this could be a sign. It could be a sign this person hasn’t done much self-seeking or inner emotional or social work. All men and women have their insecurities. It’s always best to get to the root of the problem and not make the other person feel a need to worry. If you have reassured the person and they continue to feel insecure it may not be you but this person may have trust issues. These issues can be from a previous bad relationship.
Spending quality time with yourself to work on the things you need can help. Reading books on self-help, taking an exercise class, going to a spa….all these things can build self-confidence and esteem. If you are happy with yourself, then it’s a great start in any relationship.
Learn how to communicate in a calm rational way.
Talking about your issues with your partner is a great way to break the ice. You should be able to confide in this person. If you can not confide in them about personal issues then they may not be the one for you. Expressing your desires and bearing your soul early in the relationship is a good indicator the person will be around for the long haul. In order for someone to love you, they have to know you better so lying will not help. You are just avoiding the inevitable breakup.
Remain calm at all cost, show them that you have a genuine concern, mature and be a great listener. It is impossible to love someone you do not respect. Listening without judgment, or feeling a need to speak is an awesome way to show respect.
Keep personal friends at a respectable distance.
We all have those lovely friends who seriously want to help. Hopefully, they are genuine and do not have a hidden agenda or have a stake in the breakup. Don’t be a showoff with your personal life goals and plans. Showing off can breed contempt in a friendship. Be mindful!
Often times close friends can be a little bias, his friends may not be your friends and vice versa. They may encourage you to leave someone you still love. Don’t let false pride keep you away if this is the case. These are not evil friends, they just want their happy friend back at all costs.
- So you’ll hear this: “Aw man you don’t need her, there’s more fish in the sea”, or “Girl, let’s hangout he’s a loser who didn’t deserve you in the first place”. Sometimes it’s a parent who misses you because you hadn’t visited them in years until the break-up occurred.
Don’t forget to make time for loved ones, friends and try to lead a balanced life. No one can tell you what you already know about your loved one. If you are completely honest with yourself then you don’t need a sidekick to tell you and drag you around like a lost puppy to special events.
Don’t allow friends or family members to say negative things about your loved one. Ultimately, they are mocking your choices and saying you do not have good judgment or possibly implying stupidity on your part. Saying negative things about your spouse reveals immaturity but more importantly, it doesn’t leave the door open for a comeback with family or friends because you’ve demolished their credibility.
Make a decision for your life, write it down, commit it to memory and take care of yourself always and not just because you found a man. When you know what you want, you get it. When you take care of yourself, then you have room to take care of others. It’s just that simple. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Don’t introduce significant others to people who are unworthy.
Introducing significant others to unworthy people is like waving a $100 bill in the face of a thief. Don’t ever lay it down, because it will not be there when you return. This part goes for family members also. Just because someone is your family member doesn’t mean they have the right to disrespect your personal life decisions as an adult.
Socializing is hard work because sometimes you let the good in with the bad. And the peace of mind is harder work because you have to guard the doorway to your mind and having the wrong people in your life can make this difficult. Be certain to lighten the load, your happiness may depend upon it. A negative person full of worry, doubt and complaints can literally suck the life out of the day.
Don’t be an angry person.
If things do not exactly work out, let cooler heads prevail. Don’t be an angry person full of spite work and hostility. Being this way in a breakup situation only confirms the other person’s thoughts of breaking up. It gives them an “easy out” to say you were the bad person all along. Some people don’t have a reason for breaking up, they need air and room to breathe.
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