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Several Signs You’re Getting What You Deserve

Personal Boundaries

No one like to discuss rules for relationships or rules for living. Many people skip happily by doing whatever they want regardless of how other people feel. I once heard a psychologist say, “There are so many people in therapy because people with real problems will not go. It’s always the other guys fault”. 

When will we learn to forgive ourselves for being a doormat, people pleaser, or making the wrong decision, or when that job interview turns out to be a rejection? There will be many incidents in life when you will not be in control. Control is truly a myth. No one has it. Below are some basic tips you can use for guidance of healthy relationship behaviors. In every relationship bring your wisdom and not solely your emotions. 

Jeremiah 17:9 NKJV “The heart is a deceitful place, who can know it?” 

“If you aren’t happy where you are in life you should move, you’re not a tree.” ~ Brian Tracy

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How’s your relationship?

You’re never left wondering.

When you’re finally with someone who treats you the way you deserve, that person never leaves you guessing about something they’ve said, mean, or where you stand. There’s never a time you can’t ask questions or receive answers regarding your life. It’s not a game to play, and they’re not the gatekeepers of fate, where you’re waiting to uncover the truth. They are specific about intentions; they’re honest with you when they’re not.

  

Moments of vulnerability make you closer.

Expressing yourself becomes an intimate and grounding experience, not something you must feel wrong about or suppress. Your fears, concerns, or emotions are not met with condescending lectures. Your feelings are taken seriously because they take you seriously. They’ll see you as necessary, as someone they care about and not an inconvenience.

 

You’re inspired to live your life.

That other person isn’t your whole life. They don’t want a half-hearted person, either. Having personal space isn’t a chore because boundaries are respected. Walking away from a weekend together feeling want or need is unhealthy. Shrinking into insecurity and need, a person can be perceived as clingy. You’re grateful to have shared time together. Ultimately, you’re ready to live, knowing you have someone who doesn’t smother you or them. It’s not necessary to cling because you’ve been reassured. Respect is key.

 

They don’t ghost you unexpectedly.

Even if you can’t physically be together at all times, you’re never left wondering when you’ll receive a text or call. You never have to wait any extended time to hear from them, and you certainly don’t play a game of “who texted last or who’s going to text first.” Nope, none of that. Why? Because they genuinely care about you. Making you suffer is furthest from their mind. 

 

You make actual, solid, non-vague plans.

The person who treats you right will always respect your time enough to show consideration when making plans. Date nights, weekend trips, Friday just to get pizza or hang out after work. It doesn’t matter what it is; spending time together and planning in advance is definite. The spontaneous hangout happens. Try your best to give your undivided attention to them.

 

You’re loved for more than your body.

The person will express more interest in your thoughts, how you’re feeling, and what your personality is more so than how you look. Your body is loved unconditionally, too. They see your body as the vessel that houses the person they love, not indicating how worthy you are of their attention. Pay attention to your health and well-being. Don’t let yourself go. Try your best to maintain your health and well-being. Do it for yourself and your love. You will not regret this.

 

You want to bring them home to your family.

This is up for individual discussion. Not all families are the same, so proceed cautiously and use discernment. If a significant other isn’t accepted or vice versa, it may not always be the person but the family. Spending your life with someone is essential; you want everyone to get along. Handle with civility and care.

 

Call family and be respectful of their time and space. Do not take family for granted by showing up unexpectedly, they may not be ready to receive company. Get to know each other before you do this. Never have problems with relationships with friends or family members. Talk to the person directly.

 

His or her friends are not necessarily your friends during a struggle. They can be the breakup crew. They will immediately take the side of the one they’ve known the longest and the best. This is not a reflection on you, but people feel safest with familiarity, but familiarity can also breed contempt.

 

If problems arise, do not reveal them to parents unless absolutely necessary. Make sure they are present and it’s discussed firsthand. Never discuss the other person in secret. They can’t defend their position, and you may find him/her hated by the family before knowing them, especially when all is forgiven.

  

You’re not just listened to—you’re heard.

They don’t brush off your anxieties or concerns; They seriously evaluate and try to see whether or not they can reassure you or make the relationship better in one way or another. No one person is running the show. You’re both equally committed to making things work by listening. Always ask questions, and never place blame. It’s not a competition. Most relationships fail because couples forget they are on the same team. Stay clear of harsh words, thoughts, presumptions, and assumptions. Doubt and fear can be traitors to our thoughts and self-sabotaging, where we often might win.

 

You feel loved every single day.

Even if you don’t have time for elaborate expressions of romance each day, a simple touch, look, or gesture says it all. If you don’t have time to be together and won’t see them for the next few days, stay the course. Communicate your love. You want to be your best self. Express trials, triumphs, struggles, and successes because you know you’re supported and loved. Flirting with one another should never end but continue even when you are old, grey-haired, and your teeth fall out. Be kind and thoughtful. 

  

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All of these books, audio recordings, CD’s, DVD I personally recommend as they will change your life completely when applied. Not to use as a to-do list but allow them to become a part of your being and daily life. Go over them as many times as you need to, so it sinks in. Avoid the naysayers, interrupters and the many distractors who don’t want anything out of life other than to remain seated or lazy in order to justify excuses. Best wishes always.

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